TRY TO BE A GOOD PARENT

The most precious gift "MY SON" i have received from ALLAH in three  years of married life.
Being a woman for me and for every woman her children are her treasure. For fathers kids are their asset. We all want to provide them better necessities and luxuries they want, just because we wish them to take care of us in old age. In the age of losing memory and being childish we just want that treasure to be shined and asset to be profited, nothing else we parents want. 
In that case it is our major responsibility to bring them up not 100%, but 80 to 90% perfectly complete.
Here i am going to elaborate few reasons that result in personality disorder and and their precaution to prevent major flaws.
IGNORER V/S AFFECTIONATE::

In this busy world mostly both mother and father earn for the family. Intentionally they do this for kids betterment but, unintentionally it results in ignorance towards kids. They left them on the responsibility of governess or care taker. How an outsider could be held responsible for their development, and why any outsider would teach  your kids good behavior just for salary? Due to this kids tries to get attention of their parents through misbehaving , fighting or disturbing them.
So, no matter how busy you are, how much burden you carry on your shoulders,try to pay necessary attention and affection to your kids which they need. If u had been the reason of their birth into this world than it is solely your responsibility to provide them love and affection so, they would not ignore you in your old age.
OVERREACTION v/s REASONABLE INTERROGATION:

"TO ERR IS HUMAN." Making mistakes is natural in all humans, and kids are mostly guiltless. We could be realistic and rational towards problem, but how can we expect that from kids? being burdened, whenever someone complain us about our kid, we get the   
chance to through our all stress and frustration on our kids. We retaliate. In spite of asking them about the reason, we start scolding them like, 
you are shameless....
you are born to make me embarrass...
you don't use your mind... blah.blah.
They get frighted ,start telling us lies about their problem or try to hide everything to escape from our scolding.
Instead, Please, Please, humbly ask them about the reason and try to solve their problem, otherwise they would not be able to correct them and will keep them doing on. If you are the judge of their problematic cases, then only you are their lawyer as well.
ADVISOR v/s ENCOURAGER:

Everybody needs advise in day today matters. children need the most.
Kids do what they want to do and after doing so they want encouragement. They do not perform every task perfectly in spite of that,they want to be encouraged. On asking questions, if you wont answer they will not be able to learn new things and wont ask question. In their every little act if u will mention mistakes and advise them on every task they will resist doing new things. They are little souls try to be patient with them and encourage them as much as you can.
                      

COMPARISON V/S MOTIVATION:

As we all know that  nobody is perfect in this world, If someone wins the other one automatically looses. We all want our kids to shine out best but when they can't, we start comparing them with their peers, friends, relatives or even with their siblings as well. That comparison devastate their power to do more and more.

 Unintentionally they start having a feeling of jealousy, and even sometime the feeling of hatred. In most of the cases it results in failed, jealous and an absent minded person who starts living alone.

 Simply it is the responsibility of parents to motivate their child in case of failure as well, just stir them to take action again. Give them example of failed achiever,

STEVE JOBS: Founder of Apple company

WALT DISNEY: Co founder of The Walt Disney company

OPRAH WINFREY: Media Billionaire

J.K ROWLING: Writer of The Harry Potter series

JIM CARREY: Highest grossing comedian(hero of THE MASK)

BILL GATES: Founder of Microsoft. etc

Might be next time your child wants to try it with much more effort and energy.

RUDE V/S LOVING ONE:

Somewhere i read this phrase that says, "If spouse will not respect each other's feeling their kids will automatically wont be loving at any cost"

Home is the first place where any child start learning, how to eat, how to behave, how to speak etc. Whatever the older sibling and parents do he starts grabbing and storing that in his plain simple hard disk of mind. 

Scientifically it is proven that, whatever a child learn, weather good or bad, in very first 7 years of his life, he cannot easily get rid of and forget that habits and learnings. 

So please, try to provide a happy, loving and respectable  environment at home, that will not only help spouse to feel fresh after long hectic day but it will also help your kids to develop good habits

CONCLUSION:

In short, we can say that, parents are the lifetime teacher of their kids. they can easily mold them in whatever direction they want, they can develop a person with strong character or even a person with no character.